Food for Thought: What does Radical Acceptance Mean?

Perhaps the answer is radical acceptance…

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to suffer a lot while others seem to bounce back? Those who bounce back always seem so much stronger for it. Have you ever thought about it? How does that come about? What makes that happen? How can suffering make you stronger?

Radical Acceptance
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Think about it for a minute. Is there a problem in your life that is causing pain and suffering? How are you responding to that problem? What is going through your mind?

Do you solve the problem? Do you change your views or how you feel? Are you just miserable? Or do you accept it?

Think about that last question for a minute. What does accepting a problem mean for you? What are your options when you really look at it?

Radical Acceptance

Radical acceptance means you choose to accept the reality for what it is right now. It does not mean you have to like your reality, it does not mean your reality cannot change, it also does not mean you are stuck or giving up. It simply means that this is how things are right now and instead of fighting it and wasting energy you’re going to accept it, live with it, and move on with the rest of your life.

Radical acceptance is a way to achieve inner peace and balance. It comes from within you. It frees you from a negative perspective and allows you to move forward, maybe even become stronger for it. When you’ve accepted something it gives you a sense of letting go. Moreover, you are no longer burdened by the struggle or problem. Inside of you, yourself, you feel centered.

Radical Acceptance
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Processing Grief

This moment can be bittersweet because, while it is freeing it may also be sad that you cannot change things. It’s a process of grief that is very natural since you are experiencing a type of loss. However, this type of loss is for the better. It relieves you of pain, agony, emotional energy and suffering. Radical acceptance is a way to turn extreme pain into just normal, ordinary pain. It puts you back in control and in power. You can choose to overcome the suffering instead of letting it destroy you.

There are three steps to radical acceptance:

  1. Accept your Reality
  2. Accept the Event or Situation
  3. Accept that Moving Forward Despite the Pain is Worth it

Despite the sadness, when you’ve radically accepted something, then you are well enough to move on with your life and become stronger for it.


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Danielle Faith is a graduate of the The University of California, Los Angeles with a Degree in Cultural Geography. She know how your location in life (race, religion, economic status, etc.,) influences how you view the world. Today, Danielle Faith is freelance writer and marketing consultant. She specializes in new media marketing and self-improvement. Not to mention, she has a knack for clarity, and over ten years of experience. Danielle has personal experience with chronic pain and illness. Danielle is a survivor and optimist as well as persistent and driven. When she puts her mind to something it gets done. When she is not writing or checking what’s new on social media, she’s listening to music and relaxing with her dog.

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6 Comments on “Food for Thought: What does Radical Acceptance Mean?”

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  2. I used to be very close minded. I would not accept anything new that came up in life and becoming very spiteful/angry when I was forced outside of my “comfort zone”. Recently, I realized that because of this I was very limited as a person. So I have tried to become more accepting of what my reality is and what is going on in the current moment. I feel that this will better me as a person and allow me to move on when faced with difficult/tough situations.

  3. I am generally a very accepting person. I usually accept what my current situation is and try to embrace it as much as possible. Until recently when my grand father had passed away. This is the first death, I have had to deal with in my close family. I was completely devastated. I would refuse to eat and sleep throughout entire days. Finally one day, I decided I had to accept it to move on. He had lived a great life and it was his time to go. Through accepting it, I felt as it had freed me and relieved me of all the rage and pain I had experienced. I was able to grief but also move on as well with my life

  4. I was always one of those people who suffered tremendously when a problem occurred in my life. I used to sulk in my misfortune and not be able to accept what happened for a very long time. Until I had met my current girlfriend. She is a optimist and is very accepting of everything that comes up. I had learned from her that there will be many problems in life but the way you deal with them is the most important. This has allowed me to slowly grow as a person and be much happier in my daily life!

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