To anyone suffering from Chronic Pain to the ones especially who have been through all the tests that came back perfectly fine, and were told that life numbing pills were the only answer…there is hope (without the pills).
So a few years back I started suffering from pain that was on going and they did find a reason for it, I went for the surgery, and afterward I was told give it a couple of months you should be fully healed in no time. Well, the months passed by, and the pain wasn’t getting better it was, in fact, getting worse. I wasn’t recovering, and I was still suffering from Chronic Pain. The Pain I am talking about is not the kind of pain that you can ignore; I’m talking the type of pain that was starting to cripple my body, the kind of pain that someone with an autoimmune disorder would experience, and none of it was imagined. It was showing up on my MRI.
Well, thank God for a supportive husband and a Neurologist who understood how to diagnose it accurately. I now know I have what is called hypersensitivity. Unfortunately, the name is rather misleading because of the word sensitive; I am not sensitive in the sense of I will break down if you are direct with me. It is more that I am hyper-aware of everything going on around me. Most people who suffer from hypersensitivity do so physically, almost like an allergy. Everyone knows it is possible to be allergic to the pollen in plants, a lot of people suffer from hay fever. Now imagine being, for lack of a better word, allergic to high pitched sounds or bright lights.
Small things that don’t bother most people can be damaging to someone who is physically hypersensitive. Common examples are the labels on clothing, a hair that happens to tickle the neck area, loud, ongoing noises or crowded places. It is painful to the point of torture to force a person with hypersensitivity to endure being stuck in a crowded place, especially in a shopping mall, with nowhere quiet to escape to. This is because we are not just aware that lots of people surround us, we are aware of how all of those people are feeling, and we are aware without even knowing it. We often unwillingly will absorb their feelings of frustration, impatience, and even anger to the point of feeling that way ourselves or physically showing signs of fatigue and also pain.
It is very difficult to communicate what it feels like to be hypersensitive, especially to those who are not, because it is not within their realm of sensory experience to understand. In the same way, it is difficult for a hypersensitive person to understand how a nonhypersensitive person is able to cope so well in over demanding and stressful environments. Both sides have their pros and cons. It is great for a nonhypersensitive person that they can endure the fast paced life, the loud, the busy, and the crowded. However, they may be more inclined to miss out on the subtleties, nuances, and experiences that a hypersensitive person is aware of every day. Often people who aren’t hypersensitive and those who are will seek one another out because together they balance each other out.
Another misconception about hypersensitive people is that they are unreasonable. Being someone who is hypersensitive, I can tell you quite frankly that I believe in being able to prove something as much as I believe in taking a leap of faith. Hypersensitive people are perfectionists, so we like to understand why things are the way they are. It has to make sense, or we can become rather frustrated.
The difficult thing about hypersensitivity is that not all hypersensitive people are the same. Also, hypersensitivity can be passed on from parent to child. That said, two hypersensitive people in the same room together doesn’t necessarily equate to harmony; it does, however, mean an increased awareness of everything going on. I do believe, just a theory, though, that special needs children with high IQ’s can benefit from having a hypersensitive parent with a largely developed EQ. This is because a hypersensitive person will be able to understand what the special needs child might need, to feel at ease, without the child necessarily having to communicate that need.
Keep in mind just because a person is hypersensitive and constantly putting themselves in another person’s shoes doesn’t automatically make them a good person. Hypersensitive people are good in so far as they can be positive, creative, and continue to care for others. However, a hypersensitive person who has been abused, tortured, or forced to close themselves off from caring about others because it only causes them harm, these people can be very dangerous. To put it into perspective, imagine being painfully aware of how someone must feel to experience fear and manipulating or purposefully ignoring that awareness to make someone afraid. Scary!
So if you come across someone who you realize will not tell you how they feel about something because they fear how it might make you feel, if a friend has a tendency to notice things no one else notices, or if someone you know says they are in pain and there doesn’t seem to be any cause for it, please have them checked out for Hypersensitivity, you could literally save their lives. Make no mistake, in the same way that a person can die from a peanut allergy; people can die from being physically hypersensitive.
You really can save a life simply by being kind to those around you, because you never know when the person you choose to be a hypersensitive person, and if they are hypersensitive they will probably never tell you, but rather suffer in silence until they recover or it overtakes them. For those of you who are hypersensitive please seek out help to learn how to deal with your hypersensitivity, to know how to communicate with your family, to know what your triggers are, what is life threatening for you and what isn’t.
For more information on hypersensitivity, there are some great youtube episodes and websites out there, and I honestly hope that this information is useful, that people reading this will feel relief knowing that the pain they are in has an explanation and doesn’t have to require a lifetime of sensory killing tablets.
Lastly, I hope that people will see just how important it is to care about others as well as yourself. Yourself is a person too, and you can’t spread hope if you don’t take care of yourself so please take care!
To all those hypersensitive and nonhypersensitive people out there, you all matter, you are all important, what you are experiencing is not to be ignored, and you shouldn’t be forced to suffer.
Remember being hypersensitive doesn’t mean you can’t deal with life, it just means that some things you may have to avoid to lead a better life. In the same way that people who are allergic to eggs have to read or check the ingredients list or a person with motion, sickness might prefer to avoid traveling by boat.
Also if you currently do have Chronic Pain, you may have to first repair some nerve damage as a result of the muscles being consistently tense or strained before you can try to assess what your triggers are as a hypersensitive person. Hypersensitivity is a medical diagnosis made by a competent neurologist and should not be self-diagnosed.
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